Most of us dread having "The Talk" with our daughters. We want to keep them young and innocent as long as we can. Well I've had the talk on many different levels with all three of my daughters (16, 21 & 23). The talk has been given in small doses, we may be watching something on T.V, just chatting, or on numerous occasions it comes about while we listen to the radio in the car. I like to challenge their thoughts on what mainstream America passes as acceptable sexual behavior. I Thought I was doing an O.K job................
Trying to be a "good" mom I thought I would surprise my daughter by cleaning out her car for her. She is working out of state and was returning home in a couple days. I figured I would clean out the trash, vacuum and Armour all clean everything. It wasn't as dirty as I thought, I grabbed the vacuum and went to put the seats back so I could get underneath them..............and there it was
A Strawberry flavored EMPTY condom wrapper.
Needless to say I was the one surprised. Oh, the thoughts that run through your mind in situations like these.
The tough part is, she's an adult, it's her car, she pays her insurance, her gas....Do I talk to her about it????
I called her, got her message, left my own message...Went something like this:
Hi, just wanted to call and see how your doing? by the way, I was cleaning out your car to surprise you and I was the one surprised...Found a very DISTURBING item under your front seat. Call me back. Love You.
Well from there on we played phone tag for two days. She left me a couple messages asking what was going on...wondering what I found...etc...
I finally left her a message the end of the second day. I basically told her I had found a Strawberry flavored empty condom wrapper under her front seat. I stated the facts that were obvious to me.
1) You have not had a boyfriend in a long time
2) It flavored?
3) Its in your car
4) your an adult...But Still
5) You have not had a boyfriend in a long time.....again
6) I guess the bright side is you practiced safe sex
7) Its in your car............again
I went on to explain that I loved her and she could make her own decisions in these regards, but I still found it disturbing and would try and respect her decisions on what she does, but she knows where I stand.
Well needles to say it took her another day to call me back and when I saw her name come up on my ID, I had to calm myself because my mind was screaming and I wanted to talk in my Good Mom voice and not my Crazy, What the hell were you thinking Mom voice. Must of been her lucky day, just as I answered the phone my husband came in. He does not know and maybe never will. So I spoke to her calmly, talking only of superficial things. She responded to my message by saying she was sorry I had to find that in her car. Little does she know "The talk" is far from over.